There is no savior

There seems to be a connection between female independence and religious views. The idea is basically the same, waiting for someone to come fix life for you, may it be the one and only God, with a capital G, or a Soulmate with a capital S.

Both ideas make someone a subject, a submitted subject, and that is one of those things we should never allow ourselves to do, putting your happiness in the hands of a male figure is just half a needle short of disgusting and pitiful. There's nothing wrong with loving someone and finding a level where you work together, but it's the lines such as "I'm waiting for the one to make my life complete" that irk me. There is no savior. Even in religion they say "God help those who help themselves", so why can that be so hard to apply to love?

A couple of weeks back, on an episode of Lyxfällan, there was a woman, 40 years old, that had filled her one room apartment, no bedroom, just one room and a kitchen, with pink decorations and nonsense, she had storage rooms filled with garden furniture for when "the perfect man" came a long and bought her a house, she was in limbo. And for those of you that don't know, Lyxfällan is a show about people with financial troubles, so she was real, this isn't a sitcom. No matter how I'd like her to be made up, she wasn't. She couldn't start living until a man starter her life. Her personality had halted at that of a 20 year old, she wore her hair in pigtails and bit her lip, as if it was to be cute. I felt bad for her but at the same time it angried me to no end.

How can anyone do that to themselves? Just give up the power and not live, all because of someone that may or may not happen. We really know nothing about the future. We don't know who we'll meet and on what day death will find us. Isn't it better to spend each day being glad for what we have?

When things are hard, you can only really count on yourself, and in that I mean, all you can do is to expect only yourself to be there for you. If someone else is by your side that's a bonus, not a right. You have to be fine with who you are, with or without a partner.

Maybe I'm just a cynic, or maybe I'm just realistic. I don't want to carry the troubles of someone else, and I don't expect anyone to carry mine for me. That's just a big of part of love as happiness is. So maybe it just saddens me more than anything when girls/women/females give up their human right to be a pillar of their own.