I think secrets add depth to a person, we don't need to know everything. And the thing also is that our personalities aren't static, we change a little bit with the events we're part of and the experiences we gather.
But there are several layers to this (just like with everything else). Sharing a secret with someone creates a bond. Normal people don't want to break trusts, at least not if they care for the person who shared the secret with them.
This bond also creates issues. Too many secrets shared in a too tight of a relationship also creates a shut door syndrome. You feel trapped and limited. You might even feel as if you're betraying someone who doesn't share the same secrets, or you betray the person you share them with. Either way you're pretty much fucked.
It might feel good to get something off your chest. But what are the drawbacks? You become dependent on someone to protect the things you protect yourself. Sometimes we should ask ourselves what motivates us to share this particular piece with this particular person. Is it a way to come closer or is it just to ease yourself.
If you're telling me a secret to ease your own mind. Please don't. If you just want my views on something that's been on your mind, please tell me. I don't talk next to my mouth, but don't ask me to carry your burdens or protect you from yourself
But there are several layers to this (just like with everything else). Sharing a secret with someone creates a bond. Normal people don't want to break trusts, at least not if they care for the person who shared the secret with them.
This bond also creates issues. Too many secrets shared in a too tight of a relationship also creates a shut door syndrome. You feel trapped and limited. You might even feel as if you're betraying someone who doesn't share the same secrets, or you betray the person you share them with. Either way you're pretty much fucked.
It might feel good to get something off your chest. But what are the drawbacks? You become dependent on someone to protect the things you protect yourself. Sometimes we should ask ourselves what motivates us to share this particular piece with this particular person. Is it a way to come closer or is it just to ease yourself.
If you're telling me a secret to ease your own mind. Please don't. If you just want my views on something that's been on your mind, please tell me. I don't talk next to my mouth, but don't ask me to carry your burdens or protect you from yourself
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